To All Married Couples

This is in no way a stab at my own but rather a moment of anger following one too many stories of some rather unusual parenting!

Dear parents to be,

If you don’t have it in you to love unconditionally…
If you won’t treat all your kids equally…
If you won’t believe that your daughters are princesses and sons gentlemen and treat them on that basis…
If you can’t build them up and support them cause you yourself are too fragile…
If you won’t help them discover their dreams and go after them…
If you won’t be at most practices and every single tournament…
If you won’t take an active interest in their schooling…
If you won’t bother meet their friends and teammates and people of significance to them…
If you can’t be happy for their accomplishments…
If you have no intention of encouraging their artistic expression…
If you are going to treat them like a burden and spend your days tearing them down…
If you will value your money and excessive comfort over their own…
If you won’t invest in them…
If you won’t praise them in public and reprimend them in private…
If you won’t tell them every day how amazing they are and how much you love them…
If you won’t rave about them to your friends and introduce them with great pride as the stars that they are…
If you won’t support their choices in life…
If you won’t eventually warm up to their spouses and find it in you to visit their homes…

If the majority of these things are true; for the love of God… Don’t bother have kids!!!!

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18 thoughts on “To All Married Couples

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  2. Inso: but imagine the quality of those few generations that do get born under these conditions. P.S. Ï still have not had the pleasure of meeting the boys.

  3. ibhog: Yeah, belmarra!

    Jessyz: I don’t know.. cases I’ve seen recently have been damn provocative and the kids in question really a blessing to have!!!

  4. I am just saying that people don’t intentionally start out thinking they are doing their children a disservice. Quite the contrary, in their minds they believe they are doing the best possible thing. I have seen the parents from hell. But if you dissect the parent’s lives, personalities, beliefs and history you will find that in their heads they are doing the best.

  5. Jessyz: To me, that is a scary scary thought! I don’t know which is worse, them knowing they are playing favourites/ not giving a damn etc.. OR them not knowing that they are?!

  6. Let me put it this way. Parent’s are just humans who make mistakes, only mistakes that affect their offspring for their entire lives. Most parents will make one or two mistakes like the ones you mentioned at one point or another. Good parents will realize it and try to fix it. Bad parents will probably never realize it. Great parents are those who try to avoid making these mistakes in the first place. Having said that, I still think there is an expiration date for parent blaming. Once a child becomes an adult they can make choices to break away from an unhealthy parent/child relationship, this is easier said than done but still it is possible.
    There are many forms of child abuse, the worst is emotional and mental.

  7. what’s up with the parents-to-be thingy… everyone’s having babies these days 😀 there’s a baby boom in town all of a sudden!

  8. Having kids is an overwhelming experience..mixed feelings thoughts at the begining..attachment to its maximum extent later.It is amazing how you come to discover how a person can have such a major contribution to another human being’s life, nothing compares.While i truly agree with all what you mentioned, some can be extremely challenging at times specially with the hectic lifes we all live.Kids are the best blessing that can happen to a human being..and should be treated this way.

  9. bravo Juka! cannot agree more!!! I am shocked at this new generation. some parents go to the extend to leave their kids to the maids and drivers and then they have the guts to wonder how they turned out to be like that!! for godsake’s kids are not plants to be left alone when “bored” and assuming they will grow on its own!
    chapeau!

  10. Ze2red: 🙂

    Y: This post was actually inspired by parents with kids who are teenagers and twenty year olds, but I guess there would be parents like that in any generation!

  11. I think it’s an overwhelming responsibility to have a child and raise him/her. overwhelming! and i truly believe that parents do the best they can. most of them have the best interest of the child at heart. sometimes, they just don’t know what to do.. and have to choose between choices they would know would be easier to accept from the child but would harm them, or choices that would appear to harm them, but is ultimately in their best interest… fahmeen haga?
    For all the choices my parents made, good or bad, they always had their children in their best interest and sometimes they made choices out of concern or out of fear – always out of love – and for all those choices, whether i agree with them or not, i learnt to be a better person!

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