On Behalf of the Fishes

Last night in a girlie outing, conversation steered towards how the zodiac sign of a person affected their attitude towards a relationship. It was claimed, and I quote:

Pisces would be perfectly fine swimming along, things going well in a relationship, then they’d decide to roll over and die and that would be the end of it.

I smiled, an automated response, and argued that the rolling over and dying is never that sudden and is really quite gradual.

After having a while to contemplate it, decided to write on behalf of the fishes, explaining how and/or why, for I assure you, there is always logic to our madness.

I think Elizabeth Gilbert put it beautifully:

“If I love you, I will carry for you all your pain, I will assume for you all your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will protect upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy Christmas presents for your entire family. I will give you the sun and the rain, and if they are not available, I will give you a sun check and a rain check. I will give you all this and more, until I get so exhausted and depleted that the only way I can recover my energy is by becoming infatuated with someone else.”

We are that extreme and that intense. Moreover we are that spaced out and deluded. You see, we never really loved you, per say, we loved a version of you that only we saw. We, for all practical purposes, only saw the good in you, the finest possible version of you that you could be, and fell in love with that. Moreover, we idolised that version, put you on a pedestal and treated you like Helen of Troy (or Hercules.. depending on your perspective) and then some.

Then we love you with great dedication and passion. We would support your dreams, go out of our way to make your life a little easier, make it our mission in life to impress you and keep you happy. We become caring and attentive, we whom by the way usually don’t give a damn about much. We listen! A rarity in this world. Moreover we understand. Once again, I can’t phrase it better than Liz already has above, but it is insane the measures we would go to when in love.

Trick is, amidst this shower of niceties and public displays of affection, we often become so consumed with pampering you, that the relationship is no longer balanced. We have just spent months (in a best case scenario) telling you how perfect you are, how flawless, how incapable of error, how all your wishes are commands and how no matter what you do we will tolerate and understand. Yet unfortunately it isn’t true. We take perfectly fine potential partners and ruin them… spoil them entirely… then have the audacity to complain about what selfish flawed beings they are. Yet they are what we’ve made them.

Then the relationship becomes a burden, the actions that were so effortless before become a daily nightmare. The idols fall out of grace. We see them, as if for the first time, as the humans they have always been. By then we have grown tired of it all and in her words decide to roll over and die.

Only to shortly after hit repeat. Afterall, fish only have a 30 second attention span, its not like we were cats or anything.

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6 thoughts on “On Behalf of the Fishes

  1. Bwavo!
    “The idols fall out of grace. We see them, as if for the first time, as the humans they have always been.”

    🙂

  2. This is the case when the lover has repressed emotions, for they crave finding a partner for a long time, clamping it down all along, building up unrealistic dreams and fantasies.

    This has two problems: for them, love becomes the aim, not happiness, and that’s an error. The second issue is, all their affection displays are ruptures (spontaneous in the bad way), and those almost always have flaws in terms of sincerity.

    So when they get back to their senses (inevitable), they discover the mess they made, and henceforth try to evade it entirely, which btw is also a huge mistake, because it’s an even more serious misunderstanding of love and life generally, living in extremes that is; either we love too much for reality to behold, or hate too much for issues to be resolved.

    It’s strange how people tend to employ time in interpreting (let aside taking for granted) the zodiac, when they need it the most in understanding how to live moderately. That’s why I personally do believe that those so called signs can or cannot work for every human being, not because of their sign, but rather because of their ways of thinking and approaching life (a thing that can definitely change).

    Last thing, we sometimes know perfectly the logic behind our own madness, the question is:

    why do we pretend we didn’t?!,

    [Please tell me you don’t hate long comments :D]

  3. G.: I’m glad you approve.

    Jessyz: Yup, the little dreaming idealist, I hope the world is gentle to her, and she gentle to you 🙂

    ibhog: I like long comments 🙂 I just don’t necessarily agree. I understand where you are coming from, in this case though, that’s just not it. Worry not though, I assure you, Zodiac discussion was solely for entertainment purposes.

    Do we pretend that we didn’t? I don’t know.. mesh 7assa.. then again I did my entire 2008 wrap up to the theme of “fated to pretend” :S

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