Speech is overrated. Who died and made talk emperor? There are a million different ways to express our opinions and yet people prefer to speak. Not to delve into the limitations of speech, of the different terminology barriers, of language differentials. Bottom line is by speaking you are cutting down on the number of people you can reach.
Instead i urge you to give in to beautiful silence. There is something majestic about the ability to just sit there, speechless, motionless, as if in a state of Yoga. Seeing and hearing everything, absorbing, focusing. I can recall more details of conversations I’ve heard than conversations I’ve actually taken part in.
There is a lot to be said about body language. What use are words when compared to everyday normal gestures. What says I love you more than having the other person’s eyes light up when you walk into a room. We don’t need a dictionary to interpret that wince on a friend’s face to know they are in pain. Things as simple as cheeks turning red or drumming fingers on the table are international and need no explanation.
So therefore enjoy the silence, enjoy the feeling that you are understood and that you are heard. They use the cliche “can hear a pin drop” to describe silence, but forget the pins “silent to the extent that I can hear what you think, what you feel as opposed to what you say.”.
I’m the silent type, so I’m a little biased. But my silence usually says a lot. Sometimes its arrogant over confidence, other times its just shyness. Sometimes its because I have nothing to say. Other times its because I have so much to say I don’t know where to start. Sometimes I’m silent because I totally agree with you, or I disagree with you soooo much to the extent that I won’t dignify that with a reply. Rarely I’m silent because you won’t like what I have to say. Silent because I know too much about too many people often its safer to remain silent. I’m silent when I’m sad. But basically I’m silent when I’m comfortable. Just like I’m silent around you.
Song of the day: No Doubt – Don’t Speak