Life is tough

Hallo,

Was having coffee with friends last night at Costa’s and the conversation veered towards his potential future military obligation. He is having to put his entire life on hold until he figures out whether or not he is going to be drafted. He (like all fresh graduates) was praying for an exemption or a postponement. We then started discussing how life was tough and somebody on the table made the comment “It’s so tough being a guy, girls have it easy”.

At this point I literally snapped. I couldn’t believe the audacity, that they were disillusioned enough to claim that. Take out a paper and pen and take note my friend.

When was the last time you as a guy was:

 – Denied a job because they were not hiring men.

 – Denied a career/education choice because it was predominately male and the professor in charge wouldn’t allow a girl to pass.

 – Been called words too heinous to repeat as you walked down the street as passer-byes attempted to hit on you, guess the colour of your underwear and preach to you on religion all at the same time.

 – Called a “male driver” as if it was an insult.

 – Expected to give up your career to stay home and raise the kid.

 – Expected to work inside and outside the house.

 – Pregnant and had to go through labour. 

 – Given a curfew before midnight and reprimanded for coming in 5 minutes after that deadline.

 – Walking with a female (not necessarily your girlfriend) and had everybody in the street questioning your morals.

– In love with someone but unable to tell them because our oriental society indicates that they should make the first move.

Yet guys can sit there and claim life is tough. All due respect, life is a lot tougher on this side.

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13 thoughts on “Life is tough

  1. I totally agree with you! I was looking at jobs in Kuwait and I had to be male for the jobs that I want to do in IT.

    When I was growing up, my curfew was 9pm and if i was 5 mins late, I was grounded for 2 weeks 😛

    While my brother could do what he wanted

    Ugh

  2. Have to object 🙂

    life is not tougher on girls (nor on guys)..Life is fair!

    ya3ny for example

    -Denied a job because they were not hiring women. [this is unfair ana ma3aky ..bas probably these kinda jobs r too demanding for a woman to have..face it..we have another job were supposed to do (comin in ur next lines)..so they r making ur life easier..wala enty 3ayyza tete7ny:)]

    – Denied a career/education choice because it was predominately male and the professor in charge wouldn’t allow a girl to pass. [ same as above]

    – Been called words too heinous to repeat as you walked down the street as passer-byes attempted to hit on you, guess the colour of your underwear and preach to you on religion all at the same time. [unfair yess..3andek 7a2..bas ne3mel eih..we r beauty walkin on earth 🙂 ]

    – Was called a “male driver” as if it was an insult. [laa mesh fahmaha]

    – Was expected to give up your career to stay home and raise the kid. [unfair if ur husband forces you and does not negaotiate..but still it is ur choice ..if u dont want that..jsut dont get married…or at least discuss this with ur future husband..a deal is a deal…but still..i find that family comes first..(dont get mad) ] [but he is expected to be the bread winner ..]

    – Was expected to work inside and outside the house. [yess dilemma]

    – Had to get pregnant. [coz u r born with more tolerance and a softer heart to have this baby inside of u]

    – Was given a curfew before midnight and reprimanded for coming in 5 minutes after that deadline. [parents!!!!!! :)]

    – Happened to be walking with a female (not necessarily your girlfriend) and had everybody in the street questioning your morals. [laa mesh fahma]

    – Was in love with someone but unable to tell them because our oriental society indicates that they should make the first move. [e7mm..not society morals..but girls nature of being 3andaha 7aya2 corners you]

    shofty?:)
    kol moshkella we leeha 7all 🙂

    take care

    p.s. hope u dont take me as anti-gurls! coz i see life is fair 🙂

  3. Ananyah: I know, I really couldn’t believe myself.

    Marouna: Not going to argue just going to attempt to explain the two you didn’t get (although I don’t agree khales with your explanation for one and two; it was a bank for god’s sake! how masculine do I need to be). “Male driver” was tarya2a 3alla the fact that all men claim all women can’t drive so “tab3an mahy set elly say2a”. The one about the couple the guy is hailed for having landed such a babe while she is looked at as if she was a slut WTF!!.

  4. I must TOTALLY disagree with Marouna! (although she is a sweetheart:)
    She says: “kol moshkella we leeha 7all ”
    Actually she’s not suggesting ANY solutions just saying that women should “yerdo b halhom” which I see as very passive.
    There is a difference between men & women. YES.
    But that doesnt give the society the right to discrimenate by giving men rights & denying them to women.
    It’s sad to say that we must take herassment in the street because ” we r beauty walkin on earth “… NO. We have the RIGHT to walk in the street without fear or shame!
    Wa e7’telaf el ra2y la yofsid fel wedd …etc 😉

  5. I was there, sorry to interrupt, the comment wasn’t on life as whole. The way i got it was our life ( guys ) have some difficult aspects, very difficult ones. I’ll just list a couple of points that were discussed at Costa:

    1) The military service, if ever. It’s not about serving ur country, it’s a very noble cause, it’s about the obligatory delay of plans.
    2) Guys with careers that doesn’t pay off soon, but it sure does in the long run, have to wait for sometime till finding Miss-right. Most girls, not all, aren’t willing to start from scratch or even sacrifice some of their life style.

    Now, back to ur list:

    – I have no comment on the first four.
    – Who asked u to stay at home and raise kids ??!! this is an agreement between any marrying couple. I was raised by a working mother ( RABENNA ye7’alleeha )
    – U want men to get pregnant too walla eih ;), ba3deen u go to heaven for being a mother, a good one, we have to work hard to reach there.
    – Curfew……. This is one thing that has to do with each family, can’t state it’s a fixed rule. But beleive me, families who really care for their girls put such strict rules.
    – Meeeeeen dah !!!!!!! all girls walk with their friends, and noone suspects anything………………
    – As for the love thing, this has something to do with girls. You love being wanted, your pride won’t let you go and tell him that you are in love. It’s not about the society.

  6. No ya fandem, comment was on life as a whole.

    Second, in your second comment you are generalizing, I think the ratio is the other way round.

    Ma7aletleesh moskhellet el curfew bardo.

    No sir, guys like the chase, not girls love being wanted, you have it the wrong way round.

    I’m not attacking you ya fandem, I like you very much, I’m just saying you wouldn’t survive a mile in my shoes. Bas 😀

  7. awww.. that’s a huge post.. with a huge list of comments. . mmm.. good go

    well.. I won’t have the military thing cos I am a lone child.. and .. I never questioned those values.. never thought about them though..

    being a doctor, I dun suffer from the job thingie . I believe life is much simpler than we think ..

  8. add to the list:
    * girls are -most of the time- restricted from discovering life (starting from playing sports, to having a one year travelling all around the world) with the claim that is because she is a girl (I can’t remember how many times I heard from my parents u can’t travel now, do whatever u want with ur husband, but now don’t ever think about it)… grrr
    * if a male didn’t feel like wearing neatly and just threw a worn out jeans and his old T shirt, he’ll be called sexy, and if a girl didn the same she doesn’t have a good taste….

    I am not a female supporter or male hater, I am sure if we think about it for a few seconds we’d find other points where guys envy about being a girl, bas that’s life 🙂

  9. Inji and Dhalia,

    Inji…u didnt argue back? so not you..or u got upset men ra2yey?

    Dhalia …hehe..3andek 7a2 ..i didnt propose any solutions for some points..may be i was jsut trying to shed the light on the rationale behind each point..some r acceptable and others fe3lan mafish 7all..especially le mo3aksat thing..it will remain forever and ever..

    and i was not suggesting to “yerdouh be7alhom”..its jsut at the end of the day a matter of choice that u take…i mylself though am working in quite a respectable place and already have my masters from the UK (was there alone for one yr)..and my education was quite liberal..i still think that at the end of the day..woman’s first choice would be her family…coz no one will do it better that her…at least this is what i think…yess we can do develop our own selves..yess we should haev our own life and space and interests…yess to alot of things..but then when it comes to a decision to be made as to who needs u more…family or work? ..ehmm..what do u think?

    may be i jsut pity career women who work in demanding careers..and still assume the role of mothers and wives..i pity them coz at the end of the day..they might try to attend to the needs of everyone but definetly not themselves..and u end up being a torn between your career and being mum!

    i jsut hate to be a drama queen and accuse society of not giving us our rights…at least when it comes to our class stratum..it boils down to our own choices that we make!

    Bely: i agree with you regarding the “to3od fel beit thing” ..as said b4..it should eb agreed upon b4 marriage..
    Also, about the “love thing”..yess gurls by nature like to feel wanted..and our nature and pride makes it hard to make the first step!

  10. LOL. No I didn’t argue cause I felt it was pointless. You missed my point entirely.. so to argue would have had to do a lot of repeating myself 🙂 I’m not arguing that careers should be put before family. Just arguing that the fact that this is an issue to women and not to men is yet another example of why life is tougher on a woman. 🙂

  11. i cant agree more.. u even raised new issues and aspects why our life is tougher:) still we have our spoiled merits 😉
    thnx JUka for passing and responding

  12. I guess the life you live is unfair and the grass always looks greener on the other side. I think that when we compare we only look at things that we lack… we rarely look at the things we do have and compare.
    I do agree that it sucks being a woman.. especially in this country..
    But, at the same time.. I cannot imagine having to be a man.
    Having to work my ass off to support myself and my family.
    To have to save up shitloads of money to get my kids married.
    To have to be the one responsible for protecting my wife/daughter from the assholes making the fucked up comments on the streets.
    To have to serve in the military.
    To have to deal with a wife who is going through labor.
    To be at the evil end of a wife’s PMS.
    Now.. I guess it is just fair to say that life sucks for men and women.. and at the same time it is beautiful for both in its own way!
    :o)

    (I like playing Devil’s Advocate)

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